I have gotten a few emails over the last couple of days about our adoptions and stuff. So I will answer those now.
1. Are you still adopting and whats the progress? We have stopped the CT adoption procedures as we are leaving. We were also getting a lot of flack because our children are special needs that we cant possibly care for another child crap. So I basically said screw it. When we decided to high tail it out of CT I looked at other states with less strictness in adoption. I have many siblings. Give the break down for those of you tuning in. I have a sister Shannon who has same mom and Dad. I have 1/2 brothers Joel and James same mom and different dad. My bio dad remarried and that came a host of step siblings but have learned we are getting a divorce. So I will see where those relationships stand. I want my kids to have at least 3 siblings. So that would be four kids total. I will want to foster after adoption. So we will be able to pick up the process after being in South Carolina a year. They want to know you aren’t just up and gonna move anytime soon. I am looking at state agencies and private agencies. So we shall see what happens.
2. What exactly are your children’s diagnosis. This gets a bit complex. So I will try and sum up the main dx. Blake has aspergers (rain man type) of autism. He isnt as bad as rain man but I can tell you I dont need a clock, calander or watch espn with that child around. He will tell me the scores of the games, the stats of the players and the date and time. We were at the doctors a few weeks ago. The doctor was asking what happened to his leg. He looked at him and said that Happened July 1st at 6pm I fell off my bike. Dr looked at me and I just nodded yes. He just remembers random things. It cracks me up. I love his brillance in this. He also has ocd really bad. He is on his own self imposed strict schedual and if it strays hell to pay. It makes me a more organized mom. His meds do help so his ridgidness has loosened soon. He also as ADHD. He cant sit still for long. Great meds for that. I have seen major changes in the last four months with this new doctor and great behavior therapist. Nathan he is ppd-nos and this catagory where things arent as clear cut as the other classifications of autism. This generally includes Learning issues, speech issues and transition issues. They can exhibit some of the symptoms but not all like classic cases. With Nate we have learning issues, behavior and sensory stuff. His eye contact is better than most with “classic” autism. We have forced that issue. That is the only way we knew if he was understanding. He also is an insomniac from 18 months to a little over 2 we had sleep studies done. 3 and then the 4th they gave us the dx of insomnia. He would sleep up to a half hour and go for days with no sleep. This made for a cranky baby and a really cranky mommy. We started sleep meds and a totally different child. Melatonin and Benadryl would hype him up and have the adverse effect. He also has adhd. So we have started meds for that. He is finally turning around. Yeasterday was one of the easiest days we had by far. He does have some mild ocd stuff and our hope is that he will out grow this and that the other meds he is on have been shown to help with mild ocd.
3. Why move so far from your support and help? Well this could be long. My support and help hasnt been there for many years. I was hiring people to come in and do respite care. My grandmother always there no questions asked. I can count on one hand the amount of times my mom has kept my kids. I am not complaining by any means. I had these children and they are my responsibitly. I have chosen to stay home with them. I tried daycare with Blake and it was a disaster as noone there was equipped to help him and his needs. Neither boy can be touched by strangers. I dont know if I shared the walmart story here or not. I will give the summery. We were in the walmart in windham. Someone Touched the boys accidently walking by. It set them off. Screaming. We cut our trip short paid for the milk and few groceries that we needed. I almost got arrested because the lady behind the counter had the nerve to tell me my kids were acting like spoiled brats. Well there I went. The manager came over and tried to apologize for the lady but it didnt work. I have noticed since that day she has not been back on a register that I know of. She is always in clothing somewhere. SO moving so far isnt really a issue other than we will miss the family gatherings. I have come to believe that your family is what you make it and who you allow in. Will I miss my family absolutly. Do I really mind moving no. We are going where the money is and where I will be able to function. The cold weather kills me and my ms. I get really stiff and feel horrible. So This is the best move for our family. I know my mom is a phone call away as is my the rest of my family. So that is where we stand.
So there are some answers for you. Also if your a lurker please delurk. Leave your site so I can come visit you:) I have enjoyed the emails from some of you and your questions. I hope this helps!