I have been thinking about a few groups I belong some autism and some not. Having joined and started feel at home. I am reminded that how quickly as women we can turn on each other. I don’t understand what these woman get out of hurting someone. Whether it be another mom who has autistic kids or another mom who may or may not share the same interest as you.
Isn’t it our responsibility as women and mothers to build each other up? Help each other when we are feeling low? Rejoice with each other when we are having great days? I don’t see the point in tearing someone down. If you don’t like what they have to say, then block them. You won’t have to read their messages. If your forum doesn’t offer it, then ask the community manager or moderator to fix that setting.
It just really makes me sad to see people I enjoy talking with, and getting feedback from, being put through the wringer. I don’t think it’s right. We have enough stresses as women and moms daily, that I don’t think we need to attack each other. It reminds me so much of high school. I left high school 10 years ago. I have questioned leaving these sites because I see them going in directions that I don’t like. Then I think of the valuable lessons that I learned. Most importantly with the autism site. There is always new information coming out. The other part of me thinks of the women I have come to care about who are hurting. They are hurting because we didn’t take a minute to think how our comment would hurt them. I have always been one to stop and think before I talk for the most part, something my parents taught me at a young age. Thank God for that lesson. It has saved my ass more than once. I always try to be respectful of people’s feelings. Am I perfect at it? Nope.
I am just wondering if more of us stop and think before we speak, type and text if we would have a more peaceful place. Maybe that is part of my own issue. I just want to see everyone get along. I know that’s not always possible, but not a bad wish either. I hate to listen to girlfriends cry in the phone because feelings have been hurt. I guess I am just extra sensitive to that.
I am at a loss as to what to think of some of the situations I have seen lately. I have seen women falsely accused and already convicted before they are even heard out. I have seen women gang up on other women because they were just venting more times than I can count. I have seen some plain old vindictive behavior that is all uncalled for.
That I can not be a party to. I would not want my name associated with that type of behavior. I am not that time of person. Really isn’t life about hearing out both sides before making decisions that could impact someones life dramatically?
Ladies lets support and build each other up, not tear each other down.
Because this is happening on the forums I belong to, I have decided to step away. I can’t watch Mean Girls the movie play out in real life. I have enough stress with my husband being gone and trying to do the day to day stuff. I think it is just best for me to pull back. I will still be at my site and on my FaceBook page. If you want to join me there, then you can use the contact form to contact me or email me directly at sarah[at]caiafacraziness[dot]com
In every person who comes near you look for what is good and strong; honor that; try to imitate it, and your faults will drop off like dead leaves when their time comes.
— John Ruskin
I can lead a fuller, richer life if I follow two maxims:
1) I will live each day as though it were my last.
2) I will treat others as though the same were true for them.
— David L. Weatherford