Each day I wake up. I grab my cup of coffee and roll through my Facebook stream. Each morning I see people posting this is racist, this is offensive, and the complaint list rolls on. Yet the thing that gets me is that the people complaining are not doing anything to promote change. It is constant negativity. Am I guilty of complaining? Of course! I call that being human. I wish that more people would count their blessings. I am not made of money, have everything we desire. I am in rich in other ways. If you remove the drama, the hate, the cynical way of thinking do you think you might have room in your life to be happy? Count your blessings one by one. I am pretty sure instead of feeling frustrated, negative, hate or whatever other feeling you might just start to feel happy and joyful.
I started to feel almost depressed and for a few days couldn’t figure it out. Then I realized it is all I read on Facebook. One of the main communication systems I have with family and friends. It is easy for me to send a message or post to the wall. As life in my house is crazy. If I wait to do a phone call when it is quite well let’s just say we could be waiting forever and a day. I decided this morning I am going to list my blessings one by one. I have plenty to be thankful for. We need more human kindness in our lives. While I can’t name everyone I will name some of my favorites.
1. My husband. He works so hard for our family. He provides for us and puts our needs before his own. He is willing to dream big with me and not be afraid if we fail. We have taken failing out of our vocabulary. Instead it is just a bump and we learn from it. time to move on
2. My children. They love with no conditions. They are understanding when they army calls Dad away. They know at times there are other spouses and kids that mom needs to deal with. They are kind and caring. These two own my heart! Everything I deal with and do is for them. For their future.
3. My job. I have some amazing little people in my life. Their laughter is infectious, their personalities are so diverse but they all play together. One gets hurt they stop and comfort each other. As adults maybe we should take more lessons from them. Their is no color, there is no your opinion offends me. All that they do is play and laugh together. Our smallest of friends understand compassion and human kindness. There is always a clean slate after hurt feelings. They show pure forgiveness without conditions.
4. My mom. Without her I would not be where I am today. I can call her day or night. She will not judge, though she may not like our choices. She will support me no matter what. She is there to give encouragement and to pick up the pieces of heartache.
5. My army family. They understand this life better than anyone else. They understand our disappointments of missed birthdays, anniversaries, what seem like never ending deployments/tdy, the long hours. They have your back and are ready to step in whenever you may need it. They understand the struggles you face with Tricare and Metlife Dental. A dental plan that covers nothing of importance other than cleanings. Tricare the fight you have to fight to get things you need covered. When you need to be picked up from your darkest days they step in dust you off and remind you of one foot in front of another. Human Kindness!
6. The lady at the commissary. When I was feeling so miserable because I was having a ms flair. Her debit card was not working properly. I swiped mine. She reminded me that random acts of kindness are good things. I had the means to help her pay for formula and diapers.
7. My pups. Ramsey was my deployment buddy. She got me through some of my Lonely days. She knew when I need snuggles. She is so receptive to what the boys needs are. She is going to be awesome for them as their therapy dog. Hades has added laughter. He is tiny in size and truly thinks he is a huge dog. Both are amazing
8. Alyx. This girl has shown me what a difference a year can make. She and her family are now my family. She is my daily dose of the east coast. I love them all oodles!!!!! I can’t even tell you how proud I am of her!!!!! I seriously can’t wait for her wedding next year.
9. The Parks Family. They are family. One of the first families we met here. Tons of laughs. My sanity during Paul’s time away. 3 little ones who are too cute for words.
10. My sisters. Laurie and Shannon will answer no matter the time. Will listen to me cry when I just don’t know what else to do. Laurie will pray with me when I need. While not related by blood. You would never know she wasn’t. Shannon this girl is a nut. We laugh at the same stupid shit. Though I think we inherited that from our mother and a bit from our dad.
11.My step father! While he is now watching over us. He was not afraid to show he loved his wife. One who respected his mother. One who raised 2 girls not biologically his but treated them as much and did so even when he had 2 sons of his own. He was kind and compassionate. I will never forget sitting at the reflecting pool in Washington DC eating a hot dog. He went to the vendor ordered 2 more, a coffee and water. Took it to the homeless man who was not far farm us. I remember the homeless man crying over his kindness.
12. Tanya!! She has come and visited when I didn’t think I could hang on any longer. She has been an amazing friend who has become family. The boys on their own call her Auntie Tanya. Which doesn’t flow out of their mouth easy. They are guarded and takes a bit to build trust. They just fully accepted her.
What are your blessings? what are you thankful for? What is one thing you can do to start a kinder America? I have my ideas but I am saving those for another post!