13 years ago we woke up and got ready for one of the biggest days of our lives. We were getting married. So many betting against us. Oh it won’t last a year or I give you 2 years tops. We went to the park. We waited for the JP to arrive. We also waited for the rest of the family to arrive. We walked that park and talked about our hopes and our dreams. We talked about what our future would hold. Never once giving what the others said a second thought.
I am glad I have walked the last 13 years as your wife. We have over come so many mountains. Many would have given up. We have gained friends and lost friends. We have lost family members and added to our family. The one thing that has stayed constant is you and me against the world. With you by my side I know we will make it. I love you more and more everyday. I know I don’t always show it. Let’s take a stroll down memory lane.
We have moved 7 times
We have traveled most of Europe, All of the east coast and a bunch of the mid west.
We have 2 amazing kids
We have seen numerous concerts.
Year 5 was our worst year of marriage but we tackled it.
We crushed deployment
We have lost parents
We have lost our daughter
We have laughed until we cried
Bought a horse (nothing either of us ever envisioned)
2 autism dx
1 Ms dx
I look at this list and know that if I had been with anyone else chances are we would not have made it. When we talked about marriage through out the year of dating the one thing we always came back to was that we would fight for our marriage so our kids didn’t have a broken home. One thing I have learned is our kiddos will never have to worry about. That we have remained steadfast in that. I am so proud of where we have come to where we are.
I was sitting and telling a friend not to long ago that when I received my MS diagnosis that I was sure you would run. That you didn’t realize how crazy this disease could be. How much fight I have to put in. I am lucky in that I am still able to walk and symptoms are controlled. I know had I been with anyone else they would have fled. You have picked up when I could not soldier on due to a flare. You have learned my cues as to when I am not doing well. Even when I fight you and tell you I am fine. You know that I am pushing through. You always make me stop and take care of me. I love that you don’t mind doing extra when I can’t. That you don’t make me feel guilty for that. I am sure anyone else would.
I love that we are so easily on the same page with hopes and dreams. That we are able to see the 1 year plan and a 5 year plan. Know that we will tweak it here and there. The end result is always the same. Back home in South Carolina on our farm and making memories. That we will have our forever home. A place our boys can come back too. A place that will house our family and friends. A place that will have us at home and living at peace. I cannot wait for the day. That we are able to agree on most.
Has our marriage always been easy? No! I do believe those bumps were there to just remind us that we are human and that we while we live a fairy tale marriage, we do have normal marriage issues. We are able to plow through. Are there times when we want to murder each other yes there is. I can say we never go to bed mad. We always say I love you and remember that tomorrow is a new day. We have learned to communicate.
I cannot wait to see what the future has in store. I love writing the chapters of our love story. I hope my boys marry as well as I have. That their spouses will be just as awesome. I am thankful god put you in my life. At a time when I needed it the most.