On April 16 2002 I married my best friend. We didn’t do the traditional church wedding. In fact nothing about our marriage was traditional. on April 1st 2002 he proposed in his own Paul way. Forever the romantic. I am handed a ring with here wear this. I did. What was I thinking after that over the top proposal. My mom asked about the proposal. The conversation went something like this.
“Hey Mom are you busy?”
“I am getting married. Paul just proposed.”
“Really??? How did he do it?” excitement in my moms voice
“He took a ring out and said here wear this”
“You accepted that” I am sure at this point she was thinking I was nuts.
I hung up the phone and we went into discussion of how and when we would get married. Ha little did our families know we would be married 15 days later. On the hottest day Westerly RI had seen in years. Paul in a heavy suit and I in pant suit. See no wedding dress. We gathered everyone in westerly and we got hitched. We didn’t have the huge expensive wedding. Dave Ramsey would be proud. We had my mom and step dad, sister, 2 brothers, my grandparents and step grandparent. Paul had his mom, step dad and grandpa. We had our witnesses Giorgio and Lisa with their son Thomas. See small and simple. My grandma did insist on flowers. I did not want flowers as they die. I have since come to love flowers over the last 11 years.
What has 11 years brought us. Many laughs. Many nights were we lay in the dark and talk but the best part laugh until we cry. We have had some serious bad times as well. The last 11 years has taught me patience, unconditional love, how to depend on someone, what life feels like to have a life full filled. We have two beautiful children who are funny and easy going for the most part. We have been through the loss of 3 parents and 2 grandparents. We have celebrated with my grandparents their 50th wedding anniversary and left feeling like that could be us one day. I am damn sure it will.
We had a chat not to long ago with a couple who has been married five years. Year 5 was our hardest year in the marriage. Thank God for a great counselor. They asked what got us through. For me it was counseling and prayer. For him I am sure it was counseling and determination not to divorce as that is our parents legacy. We didn’t want our children to ever feel the hurt we did when our parents spilt. Though they all have valid reasons for going through with it. Just because we didn’t get married in a church didn’t mean we don’t take our vows as seriously. As a matter of fact we do take our vows seriously. We also never go to bed angry or without a kiss and saying good night. It is important to us that we don’t. It has been a sore spot in the Army. While he was away I would say good night to the moon and blow a kiss. Knowing we both saw the same moon.
We have done several moves around CT and then took a leap of faith and moved to south Carolina. Love south Carolina but soon learned it was just a stepping stone for something better for our family. While I miss home a ton. We are so enjoying our military life and traveling Europe. We are offered stability and my children are seeing sights that only many dream of. Amazing. Germany has tested our limits and tolerances but I would not change our experience.
I know each day how loved I am. I know each day how appreciated I am. I hope he feels the same. I have married my best friend. The person I am going to grow old with. There is no better way to spend each day.
11 years later we are still so in love. He can walk in the room and still give me butterflies. That feeling will never get old. Paul I love you more than you will ever know. Our favorite bible verse is 1:Corinthians